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How I Talk Myself into Good Things — 40 Comments

  1. I’m glad you decided to go. The feelings you’ve been wrestling with are child’s play compared to the regret, maybe even resentment, you’d be knocking around if you didn’t.

  2. So many things you say in the post are just so true. Like when you decide to not to voice something to not have to feel guilty for feeling/having been selfish. I mean, really, that’s like you took them right out of my head. So what you are doing by going to the conference, is THE only right thing to do. It’s good to live for others but somewhere you have to think about self for you deserve that. Good post, you are a great writer. 🙂

  3. Did you buy the airline ticket? Because we all know that you deserve to go. You owe it to us to go, learn and share. Okay, I made that up because I really want you to WANT to go. But don’t do it for us. Do it for you.

  4. I know exactly what you’re saying. Hey girl, you are doing it for me, too. I put everybody first all the time, still do, and I want to know that you broke free, you did it, and then maybe I could too, and not just be this quasi anonymous writerybloggery voice that is sort of read but not like I would like (or I secretly think I should be, like the whole world reading my words and thoughts) So I am rooting for you to be brave and GO! Do you want to end up as old as me and never having really done anything completely self…..ish.

  5. I, too, virtually always put other people’s needs before my own. And a lot of the time it feels good, but sometimes you HAVE to put yourself first. In this instance, it sounds too integral to not only your happiness, but your life’s purpose to not do it. So congrats on deciding to go! You won’t regret it, I’m sure.

  6. Hell yeah! I hope you go and have a blast. I’ll still blame the apocalypse on you, but I’ll continue to love you no matter what. I know how you feel 100%. I think you have a lot of talent and I enjoy reading all of your blogs. You’re funny, descriptive and captivating- all with a smart-ass edge. I love it! You deserve to live the life you’ve dreamed of. Why is it so hard to actually do it? I wish I knew the answer to that because I do the same thing with music all the time. I’m rooting for you!

  7. Good for you for deciding to go. I have also wasted so much time at my safe choice. It’s “worked out” if you can call it that and I still do that which I don’t enjoy, just for the money. I went to BlogHer last year and I’m going to Type A this year. I struggled with the decisions to go to both and I know part of me will always feel a little selfish, but I do feel like it’s worth it for the me time and the personal growth.

    Enjoy your conference, you DO deserve it!

  8. Are you referring to BlogHer? Because I’m wrestling with myself about whether or not to go, and I live in Chicago! I’m kind of leaning on the not going because I’d rather save up for a writers conference or retreat, not that there isn’t anything wrong with a blogger conference, it just might not suit my needs.

    At any rate, I totally know what you mean about arguing with yourself. I do that all.the.time.

    • Yea, I’m talking about Blogher. I’m not sure it will help, but at this point it certainly won’t hurt. Plus, after perusing the program, I saw several panels that are covering my weak points/places of ignorance.

  9. I keep hearing that these type things are where the “magic” happens. I keep being told to go to a writer’s conference, and how people get signed at these things all the time, because they have to see your face, blah, blah, blah.

    Only writing conferences are really expensive. I hope yours goes really well. And, yes, you do deserve it (especially since your “safe career” has no openings).

    • I know, right? Since when did becoming a college professor become such a precarious career choice?
      All I know is I feel like I have so much to learn – if I make it, it’ll be worth the money!
      I don’t want to even think about NOT making it and having spent so much…gag.

  10. There are a lot of us out here that have the same feelings. You are not alone and good for you for realizing you DO DESERVE this. I hope you have a wonderful time!

  11. Sooooo, if this is, like, career stuff isn’t there a way for this to be a tax write off?? That doesn’t help with finances NOW but it could pay for NEXT year’s conference…?

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