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Not Waving But Drowning — 61 Comments

  1. Hang in there. I see this happening with so many people close to me. We are more than our jobs. We are more than the money we make. This is such a hard time for so many but if we just keep swimming, we can make it.
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  2. Like you I have questioned my worth over these last 4 months, but I realize every day that I have myself and self worth. Like you, we both have skills and gifts that we use to our best to move people and help them. You have gifts that make you special and touch people. I do too. Try to take this time to reflect on all the good you have done, and the good you WILL do in the future. I know you will because it is within you. This not a pep talk from your uncle, but the certainty that I know you will persevere.

    • Thank you so much for your encouragement; it means so much to me. I try to do remember that, and most of the time I succeed – just not all the time. It’s a continual struggle, to remind myself that I am not my job, that I want to contribute my skills to the world. It’s just not a good time economically, for most people. It doesn’t mean we don’t have immense worth. I believe that for you, too, because you are one of the smartest, most skilled people I know.

  3. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m in the thralls of job searching too, from abroad, hoping to land something before I move across the planet, but it’s very daunting! Hang in there! As a friend said to encourage me recently, “Someone will realize how awesome you are!”
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    • Sometimes I feel like a big faker, like the writing is going so great! I love it so much! And it’s true, to a point – I only wish I could support myself doing it. However, I do believe in you, Cindy.

  4. You made the feeling of anxiety really shine through in the crafting of this piece. I am also unemployed (well, underemployed) and the pressure that comes with knowing that I may be the one to cause our family to lose our home is cruel and spirit-decapitating. I wish you the best of luck. I really do.

    • Oh, I’ve been underemployed before, too, so I know that frustration. I lost my apartment because of it, eventually. It is cruel and spirit-decapitating, because I feel like I’m failing my family by not bring in any money. I wish you the same luck.

  5. I feel your pain and anxiety and understand how you feel well. After a year of trying to build a freelance business I’ve been taken very ill and have had to put everything on hold. You can be really happy with choices you make or are forced to make but the financial strain can be indescribable. I hope things pick up for you soon.

    • I’ve been trying to build a freelance business, too, I just lost my unemployment and had to devote every waking moment to finding a real job, instead of working on what I really want to work on. And the financial strain is crippling, I know. I hope you recuperate, soon.

  6. I’m a first-time reader here, but I love your eloquence, and I can completely identify with that cruel voice that sometimes pops into our heads and points out all the ways in which we’re lacking. Your writing is beautiful, I hope that good things make their way to you soon!

    Rachel
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  7. Is it in the water? Or the air? Or the moon? I have been sharing these same thoughts lately and it sucks. You are above those thoughts, though, and you will find your happiness and worthiness. Because you are amazing and gifted, it’s hard to see it when you’re on the inside. But we see it from the outside. <3
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  8. I hear ya. The past ten years have been bleak. Other than owning our own charter boat biz a few years ago pre-economic collapse and running our own nonprofit also pre-economic collapse, the only job I’ve gotten out in the real world was filing crap for a sort of friend of mine. I could only take 2 days of the $8/hr insanity before I left in a cloud of depression. All this experience and education and talent and that’s it? What’s next? Greeter at Walmart?
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  9. I could commiserate. I could chime in with my own anxiety and discontent about work, family, life in general. But I could never write it like this. As much as my heart aches that you feel this way, it was one of the best things I’ve read in ages. *hugs* for both those reasons.
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  10. I thought after my BA I would be able to find the career of my dreams- such was not meant to be. Now that I am pursuing my MA and continue jobless, I have to wonder if I’ll ever land that job. But that’s the whole point, isn’t it? We struggle to achieve. And we keep struggling through that cesspool of job postings. Whatever you do, don’t settle. Those who hire within companies probably spill coffee on all the resumes, or nap instead of doing their work. You’ve got talent- as you showed here. Keep walking forward, or, as Dory would say, keep swimming! (Zeus knows we need to in this heat!)
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    • Yep, I keep struggling too, because I don’t want to settle. Maybe it’s time to go back for the PhD after all, and just go for it.
      And that you referenced Dori in this made me smile. Sometimes that’s all we can do.

    • Thank you so much for all your support and cheerleading, Linda. You’ve been so encouraging to me through all this.
      And yeah, THE ECONOMY SUCKS ASS! Thank you for reminding me, because it feels good to blame that. 😉

  11. Beautiful writing as usual. I can’t think of anything to tell you that would be original or helpful but I would give you a big hug and take you out for coffee if I lived in LA. Are you really thinking of relocating anywhere? Boulder CO is lovely:)

  12. Oh sweet friend, this makes me hurt for you. You are smart and amazing and none of the things you are thinking about in this piece. Wishing you peace and happiness, knowing for sure that the very best things are coming your way.
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  13. This is beautifully, poignantly written. You are supposed to write. I’ve been under-employed, unemployed, self-employed (which really was the nadir because I made less than I did on unemployment). And then there was light at the end of the tunnel and I got a job at a literary mag — how the fuck did that happen?! Now I do grant writing (better offer, more hope for advancement). I went through all the emotions and self-recriminations that you are experiencing. I’m just posting to tell you 1) you are a writer; and 2) light is ahead. Clearly, you are loved too. Be well, my new friend.
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  14. Oh Nat. This breaks my heart. Why is it that the world so often looks around/over/above the truly talented? You’ve got to hang on- and you know it- so take walks, and swing on swings, and watch those funny movies, and bake those cakes! This too will pass. XXXOOO
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    • I don’t know why, but when I’m in a positive mood, I hope it’s because I’m supposed to be doing something else. I can be pretty philosophical about it when those voices aren’t being assholes. And I think I’ll take some of your suggestions. 🙂

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