My Writing Process: Finding a Room of My Own — 32 Comments

  1. I could not be BOTHERED with journalling every day. I think I expend all of my ‘this is at the front of my headspace’ crapola on my friends, and then clear my mind to write.

    I’m impressed that you write in coffee shops. I think I’d be too fascinated or intimidated by the people to actually WRITE. Also there’s the aspect of bothering my ass to go there in the first place.

    I liked learning about your process.
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  2. When you say you journal every day is that in an actual journal, a physical book, or some kind of electronic file? I have a physical journal that I love so much I can’t bring myself to write in it!
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  3. “It’s almost as if I’m afraid of myself. Afraid of doing what I know I’m meant to do because if I fail, who am I?” This statement punched me in the gut. It’s exactly how I feel to the point that I’ve found reasons to procrastinate. I have a career that when up in flames, student loans I’ll be paying on until a die for said career so now what? I say, chase the pipe dream! Loved reading your process.
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  4. Thanks for sharing your process with us! I love the idea of writing in a journal every day, but the thought of adding one more thing makes me cringe, even though I know it would help my process so much. I did not know you were working on a memoir, that’s so exciting! (Or did I and I forgot. Please forgive me if we’ve already talked about this.)
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  5. Thanks so much for sharing this. I may take you up on this challenge. It is funny what we deny in ourselves — thinking about your statement that you write for others first. If you believe you are supposed to write, and I do believe that is the case for you, it’s important to honor it. I have trouble calling myself a “writer,” even though that is how I have made my living for 30+ years. Crazy what we tell ourselves!
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    • You should! I want to read it if you do. And I know I need to honor it – it’s why I started in the first place. I just need to stop all the subconscious trickery that goes on in my head.

  6. I have loved reading these posts about how other writers write. I can relate to being afraid of one’s self. Are you familiar with that quote from Marianne Williamson? Here, I’ve copied and pasted it for you. I just love it. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
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  7. I can’t wait to read that rehab memoir!

    Journaling every day is so helpful. Have you ever done the exercises in The Artist’s Way? Some of them are kind of hokey, but The Morning Pages exercise is really helpful and amazing for keeping the creative juices flowing.
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  8. For what it’s worth, I very much identified with your meditations on writing. The guilt cycle of not writing -> shaming yourself for not writing -> letting that shame convince you that it’s not what you love doing otherwise you’d be doing it more -> not writing.

    In fact, I think I’ll pull up my essay on this cycle for next weekend’s moonshine.
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  9. I identify with so much of this, it’s scary. Maybe it’s just called the Writer’s Woe. I am struggling to re-learn, re-teach myself and get back in touch with the writer I was 10 years ago before I try to improve and it’s a struggle. I shame and berate myself for any inkling of what might be perceived as a lack of dedication, for allowing life to get in the way of something I loved and used to be good at.

    Writer’s Woe, man. That’s the name I’m giving it.
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  10. I have found that telling the truth is liberating. Sometimes it takes a while to figure that out.

    I’m lucky… I don’t have to write… I just like to. Lots of ideas, not so much time.

    Good luck finding your room, Kitty.
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