An Introvert Goes to BlogHer
So anyone who follows me on social media knows I was at theΒ BlogHer ConferenceΒ since last Wednesday. Come on, I know you all saw this:
I assume every blogger who went will be posting some sort of conference recap – some of the women I hung out with already have done so (like Kate Hall and Julie DeNeen, to name a few – I know there are more, but I haven’t yet had a chance to scour the web). In fact, I am still processing the experience. In fact, last night was the first time I’ve slept more than five hours straight.
There will be no recap here.
Instead, before I fall asleep on my keyboard (a very real possibility), I’m just going to describe my experience from the point of view of an extreme introvert, the kind who tests in the 99th percentile of introversion on personality scales.
Being an introvert does not mean I don’t like people. People are amazing! People are better than smoked Gouda! (Unless they are douches). Relationships are of the greatest value to me. Nurturing relationships at the conference was one of the highlights of my experience at BlogHer.
No, what being an introvert means is that too much stimulus, including interacting with people, makes me tired. Very tired. I expend a lot of energy around people – the larger the group, the more energy I unload, like I’m a tinny little generator powering a small city. After a day full of stimulation, noise, talking, interacting, relating, I need to lie down in a quiet space, preferably with coffee, definitely with a book.
So think about five straight days of constant motion, surrounded by over five thousand people. I got maybe five hours of sleep a night? When I usually need at least eight and a half to be moderately civilized?
Plus there were non-stop activities basically from sunup to the wee hours of the morning, including seminars. Seminars. That means learning. Do you think I would’ve missed that? If you do, then you obviously don’t know me very well.
My brain felt feels like an over-saturated sponge. But in a good way!
I certainly could have slept more, snuck off to a peaceful corner of the hotel or the Serenity Suite, a place designed as a respite from so much muchness. But the truth is, I was having way too much fun at a time in my life when fun isn’t exactly padding my schedule.
I didn’t want to miss a minute with these incredibly kind, inspiring, hilarious women who I may now call friends. I didn’t want to miss hearing from the keynote speakers, women I greatly admire like Sheryl Sandberg and Gale Ann Hurd, whose names I misspelled on social media (just to give you an idea of my exhaustion levels). I certainly didn’t want to miss hearing the Voices of the YearΒ –Β a few of whom are my friends – which gave me enough inspiration to fuel my ambition for the next year.
Maybe I’ll write more about this life-changing experience later. Right now, I need to take my second nap of the day, as my fourth cup of coffee has worn off.
59 Comments
Karen
You don’t need to keep it your blog is already your scrapbook…I need to do more with my blog and then try to attend one of these years.
Natalie DeYoung
Thank you for speaking into my hoarding tendencies…
Kathy Radigan
I went last year and was tired for days!! So glad you had a good time. What an accomplishment to go to such a big conference when it is so out of your comfort level! Yea you!!!
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Natalie DeYoung
Thank you. I feel so blessed to have been able to go.
Considerer
Ahhh hope you get some space and time to yourself (plus book). Sounds like a great time, and yes, definitely keep your badge for the hypothetical scrapbook π
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Natalie DeYoung
I will have plenty of time for it now… π
D.J. Paris
You were a lot of fun. Well, 6/10.
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Natalie DeYoung
You too. And surely I’m at least a 7.
Sarah | LeftBrainBuddha
I know exactly what you mean about the difficulty of navigating BlogHer as an introvert…. wanting to crash in your hotel room, but also not miss out on a single minute of the action, and, especially, the learning! I still feel tired and exhausted from the sleep-deprivation! And I cannot believe I never visited the Serenity Suite. Definitely will check it out next year…
I really enjoyed getting to know you! π
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Natalie DeYoung
Me too! You felt like a kindred spirit, and now what you said about still being tired confirms it. We’ll both just have to take more naps in the coming week. π
Julie DeNeen
You were the first person I hung out with (not counting DJ – since he’s a guy, so he only 1/2 counts π
Loved getting to know you!!! xo
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Natalie DeYoung
Yes, you too! It seemed fitting that you two were the first people I met there.
Enchanted Seashells, Confessions of a Tugboat Captain's Wife
I’m sorry I missed all the fun! Hope you learned a lot of good stuff, tho.
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Natalie DeYoung
I wished you could have come, too! You’d have loved it. π
Kate Hall
I haven’t thrown my badge out yet. I can’t do it. Reading your post makes me think that maybe I’m not as introverted as I thought. I wonder if I’m an ambivert. I really enjoyed all the parties and could have partied more. But I do find that I don’t need a large group of friends all the time. I can usually only manage 2-3 close friendships at a time. I really enjoyed hanging out with you and getting to know you better and going to Panera! π
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Natalie DeYoung
Well, I am definitely on the far end of the spectrum as far as being an introvert goes. And you can totally be an ambivert – trust me, that’s a thing, because my husband is one. π
I loved getting to know you, too! What a great time. π
Linda Roy
I know how you feel. I’m an introvert at heart masquerading as an extrovert in order to get through difficult things like meeting a lot of new people in a crowd of thousands and trying exceptionally hard not to be a complete dork. It’s exhausting. Thus, I have a full on BlogHer hangover today from which I estimate it will take days to recover. But I enjoy the hell out of it. I’m so glad you were my roomie! I had a lot of fun hanging out with and getting to know you. Too bad we didn’t get a chance to sing! xo
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Natalie DeYoung
I’m fully expecting to be laid up for at least another day, but you’re right – I enjoyed it SO much.
You were the perfect roommate, I think – I had such a great time getting to know you! Next time: music session.
Ruchira
I am glad you had the time of your life π
I gotta try to come by this blogher event next year!
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Natalie DeYoung
I certainly recommend it! You should definitely try to come.
Pam
My husband is an introvert… being around people exhausts him too. I am an extrovert. Hence I did not feel tired at all until I got home! I loved meeting you in person!! Ok and “People are better than smoked gouda”? Priceless!!!
Natalie DeYoung
I could tell you were an extrovert, lol! You are SO fabulous and fun, and I’m SO glad we met each other!!
Larks
I am your sister in introversion. I wish I could have gone to BlogHer but I was/am also totally intimidated by the concept of so… Much. It’s good to know you had a blast, though. Gives me hope.
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Natalie DeYoung
Yes, even just knowing I could sneak away if I needed to kept me going much longer than I could have otherwise. It would’ve been so great to meet you!
Erica M
Sounds like you handled it well, and what fun it must have been to room with Linda from Mod Mom. Glad you had fun. Maybe after some rest, you’ll change your mind and write a recap!
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Natalie DeYoung
Yes, I felt very lucky to have such a fun/amazing roommate – Linda is just as cool as you’d imagine her to be!
Ellen
5,000 people is a huge number, even if you’re not an introvert. Well done!
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Natalie DeYoung
π Yes, LOTS of women!
Sandra Sallin
Kate and Natalie, I had no idea you were intorverts. You carry it well. It was such a pleasure to hang out with you both. We did have fun didn’t we. I’m so happy that you’re both exhausted. I can barely think or move. I didn’t realize how much energy I put out for all of those non stop days and will not through away my badge. It’s a badge of honor. We did it! Again it was delightful getting to know you Natalie.
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Natalie DeYoung
Likewise, Sandra! You’re a trooper to have kept up such a pace – I felt like a limp noodle even the day I got there!
Sandra Sallin
Oops, I forgot to mention for an introvert you take a wild and crazy photo. Sarah, I was telling my husband about our own personal walking wikipedia. For an introvert your certainly have a lot to say. Loved meeting you all.
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Natalie DeYoung
Oh yes – I may be an introvert, but I have no shame about my silliness. π
OldDogNewTits
Hey, lady. I wouldn’t have pegged you for an introvert. Maybe that’s because I’m one, too. Well, sort of. I mean … I am when that particular personality has taken control of the wheel. #sybil
Anyway, it was great getting to know you. Here’s hoping we can do it again. I’m so glad I got to see that hat in person. (You and it made it to my blog as well.)
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Natalie DeYoung
I too have a “Sibyllic” personality…I can be just as wild and crazy as the next person, I just need a nap afterward… π
You are so fun, there are no words! It was so great to meet you!
Christie
I am an extreme extrovert and the two days almost killed me. dead. Yay for learning and omg, get everyone away from me. So sad I didn’t meet you.
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Natalie DeYoung
Yep. I am finally recovering after so much stimulation. No wonder it’s only once a year…
Tara Pohlkotte
Goodness, as a fellow introvert, I can totally relate! I only went for one day, and as much as I loved it, I needed a day by myself afterwards. cheers to people who love people, but just don’t always like to be AROUND said people π π
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Natalie DeYoung
Amen!
Ericamos
I’m so glad you had the chance to go to BlogHer!! (and totally jealous, but in the “I wish I was you” way and not the “I hate your guts” way) Being massively introverted myself, I can completely relate. Enjoy your next couple days of solitude as you re-charge. I can’t wait to hear about your stories…in a week. π
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Natalie DeYoung
Erica, I so wished you could have come. I actually felt kind of guilty about going, being laid off and all – but the trip was already paid for (mostly), so it would’ve been silly not to go just because I felt guilty.
Yes! I have some good stories for you…
Chris Plumb
How many guys were at this thing? (And were they straight?).
I’d honestly like to do some networking with other writers, but writing conventions are so expensive.
I used to be an introvert but my wife healed me of it by ditching me at social events where I knew nobody.
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Natalie DeYoung
Chris, there were about 10 guys there, and yes, I think most of them were straight – it’s just that most of their readers are women.
I know what you mean about the expense of conventions. BlogHer is relatively affordable because of all the sponsors, but it still put a dent in my wallet. Good thing I’d paid for most of it whilst still employed…
I can hold my own in a crowd of strangers, but I do need peace and quiet afterward.
Samantha Brinn Merel
Only a conference like BlogHer would have a place called The Serenity Suite to get away from so much muchness. That is the best thing this fellow 99th percentile introvert has ever heard. I really hope I can make it next year, I can’t wait!
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Natalie DeYoung
I hope you can make it too!! You are one of my favorite bloggers, one of the ones I’d like to meet in person.
Suzanne
So jealous that you got to go! Loved your social media updates βΒ I sort of felt like I was there…
Sounds like a great experience, Natalie.
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Natalie DeYoung
Yeah, I feel very lucky, like I didn’t deserve it. Glad you followed some of my updates – it was too cool not to share.
Stephanie @ Mommy, for Real.
Well, first of all, as an extravert, I was absolutely exhausted afterwards, and still am. So brava to you, my friend! Second, I am so thrilled that I got to meet you and spend time with you- you are even more fantastic than I imagined you would be. Like you, last night was the first night I slept for more than 5 hours- I had no idea I had it in me to stay up so late and dance so much! I loved reading this post, and it is so fun to read your writing now that i know you!
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Natalie DeYoung
Yes, you are so much fun and so nice and sweet and cool. π I love that I can now put together people with their writing.
Good to know the extroverts were wiped out, too. π
Deb @ Urban Moo Cow
From one introvert to another! People don’t believe it because I am outgoing, but stuff like that just zaps me. You’ll notice I didn’t make it to any parties! So glad I meet you though. XoXo
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Natalie DeYoung
Come to think of it, I wondered why you weren’t at any of the parties…
I’m SO GLAD I got to meet you – it felt like meeting a kindred spirit!
Christine Organ
Yay for you! I’m an introvert too (so many of us writers are, huh?) and I totally get what you mean about loving people but getting over-stimulated. I’m glad you had a good time though. You deserve a nap.
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Natalie DeYoung
Yeah, I used to wish I didn’t get so tired from being around people, because I do love them. I finally just have come to accept it now that I’m older and purportedly wiser…
Ilene
I never would have known you were an introvert! Never! But I’m one too! I put it all out there for the weekend and came home and told my kids that no one was allowed to talk to me for 3 days – so, yes! I get this!
You are delightful by the way. I am so glad we got to meet. xo
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Natalie DeYoung
Haha, I can hide it well when I’m excited to meet someone! π It was wonderful getting to know you! I hope you’ve been doing well with the move.
Katia
This post so accurately conveys the way another slightly older introvert felt like. π It was wonderful meeting you, I would have loved to spend more time talking to you.
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Natalie DeYoung
Likewise, Katia! You are both delightful combinations of smart and fun, and I loved getting to know you. I’ll let you know what I think of The Marriage Plot… π
A Pleasant House
I didn’t think u were introverted- just classy, and beautiful, with a gorgeous smile and a quick wit. Perfect actually. I’ll keep you.
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Natalie DeYoung
I think I love you now. π
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